"Blaming
others gets us nowhere. If something is done, it is done.
Griping about it changes nothing. Blaming the weather never helped
anybody.
The same goes with blaming otherpeople..."
Relax... And let it go (go with the flow).
It’s about time we start getting off our ass and move on and stop
dwelling on what seems like a hell of "regrets" and
"blames". What's done is done. Stop repeating history by always remembering
or mentioning it. The more we sit on things, the more it will fester.
Same principle applies for asking sorry.
Saying "sorry" the second (or the third, or the fourth,
or the fifth) time wont overshadow the first time you said it. That is if the
first was indeed sincere.
Repetition of it would only imply the weakness of its purpose. Repeating
it again and again is like rubbing two stones together inside a barn full of
hay. It signals danger. It will only create fire. And sometimes, this fire
never ceases. It blazes anew, creating an even bigger danger.
You see, every time you say it, it'll only remind the other party
of the things you’ve done wrong. It’s like making the wound heal then twitching
it until it bleeds again. As I have said, "what is done is done..." There
is no need to keep repeating it.
Although there are
of course those people who had been wronged, who feel the need to hear apologies
repeated. They usually are those who had not absorbed the initial apology for
reasons personal to them. I do not blame them; emotions are incumbent upon man
and almost always are beyond their control.
I do not always
ride on the same boat with them, I still feel like one sincere apology is enough…
provided of course that such apology was done timely or at the correct moment,
considering the emotion of the person having been wronged.
(But take note still
that cases may vary.)
